Men, this isn't "restricted" to after-care. Sometimes it's just the willingness to CARE that's important to her. Wash her, bathe her with no sexual intent. Have a fluffy towel freshly warmed from the dryer ready to wrap her in. Hold her. Brush her hair as she sits back turned in front of you. There's just times she needs to know. To FEEL how precious she truly is to you. Step up and show her.